The Give of Life


Life is all infusing, all sustaining; all encompassing in its oneness. It is limitless and infinite. This is a fact that is realised by all in whom consciousness is awakened and have the touch/the glow of life.

Yet the Laws of life are exact and undeviating as is the law of Karma, which we know about at a physical level; as the law of action/reaction, or the law of balance. This is in depth the law of compassion – the Law of harmony that brings order from within out.

The laws of life are, however, far from straightforward, but they are the laws of consciousness, so they can be understood by Man’s inner nature as he allows it to awaken.

Life is utterly fluid, resistless yet irresistible. being utterly penetrating. Form or Matter on the other hand – as we know so well – can be very resistant, hard and rigid.

It is the same with man, when he is stuck in form as a materialist and lives a life of conformity and reaction. His ways tend to be hard and rigid and his outlook very caught up and limited. He is dominated and fixed by his worldly values.

Whereas the spiritual or awakened man has the give of life and being utterly fluid in his outlook and approach to life, is able to live by natures Laws. Can we likewise be in that flow of life? The answer is definitely, yes… provided we are willing to change according to what is needed (not what we think is needed). It means letting go of our hang-ups, our rigid attachment to our ideas and beliefs, however cherished. It means seeing through the veils of existence to nature’s underlying truths, and if we are really going to be resilient with life it means giving up our unfinished business with ourselves and others. It means actually accepting responsibility for our lives. This fluid approach that can graciously allow people to be themselves without judging them. We have such an allowing enabling spirit for forgiveness, when we are at one with life. Then we are resistantly fluid, resilient with life. We are free of selfcenteredness, free of our own restricting opinions and no longer have an ‘axe to grind’.

Although forgiveness is simply letting go and letting life flow, this work on forgiveness can be very hard especially for some who need it greatly, but very worthwhile… provided we keep at it long enough.

Forgiveness & Healing

Forgiving is a creative use of the mind that can be deeply healing. Indeed, forgiveness is in essence a miracle worker! The spirit, the give of it, enables the dying man to confront ‘the unfinished symphony’ of his life easily. Such forgiveness acts like a lubricant which allows or holds on life to slip lightly away.

To put it more specifically, basically in Stephen Levine’s words in “Healing into Life & Death’…

Before we are fully able to just be mindful of heavy feelings such as fear or guilt, to just let them be without the least tendency ti cling or condemn, it may well be necessary to deepen the practice of forgiveness – to actualise, the potential for letting go that the openhanded acceptance of forgiveness offers upon meeting the gavel-fisted judgement of often unkind mind.

Cultivating forgiveness daily softens our life. It is the cultivation in the mind of the spaciousness of the heart.

The traditional manner of practicing forgiveness is to first extend it to someone for whom you have some resentment and to touch with them with the possibility of forgiveness. Secondly, you picture another who is unforgiving towards you, and you reach out with an openness to be forgiven and a willingness to let go of unfinished business of the past, which separated you. Then lastly, forgiveness is sent to oneself. Truly we have been waiting our whole life to hear ” I love you’ in our voice.

One cannot deeply receive love from another until they have received it from themselves. Indeed, the Budda said that no matter how hard one searched, one could not find anyone in the Universe more needing of love than oneself… and do we not tend to begrudge love for ourselves?

The practice of forgiveness opens the mind to the natural compassion of the heart. Practiced daily, it allows ancient clingings to be remembered and dissolved. But in the beginning forgiveness may have something of an odd quality about it. One needs to first recognise that guilt arises uninvited. It is important to use forgiveness not as a means of squashing guilt, but as a means of dissolving obstructions. At first one may feel they did nothing wrong, so why ask for or send forgiveness. But emotions are not rational; they have a life of their own. We ask for forgiveness and offer forgiveness not because of some imagined wrong doing, but because we no longer wish to carry the load of our resentments and guilts. To allow the mind to sink into the heart. To let go and get on with living.

If at first forgiveness feels a little awkward, please remember that forgive.